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What to Say When Your Partner Is Upset

Reading Time: 4 minutesOk, so your partner is clearly upset with you. Maybe you know why, maybe you don’t. Hopefully you love them and want to make things better. It’s important to note that conflict is normal in every relationship. We’ve all been there. What separates the great relationships from the not-so-great ones is how well that conflict […]

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5 Ways to Build a More Secure Attachment Style

Reading Time: 4 minutesPeople everywhere are learning more and more about their attachment style. What was once a relatively obscure psychological theory, has now exploded into a compendium of surveys, books, trainings, and therapies. Although John Bowlby passed away over thirty years ago, he would be happy to know that his attachment theory has now entered the mainstream.

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Good News Everyone: Self-Compassionate People Have More Compassion for Others Too

Reading Time: 3 minutesOne of the best things we can do for ourselves is love ourselves. It is also one of the hardest things for us to do. Fortunately, most of the obstacles to fostering self-love are simply misconceptions that can easily be dispelled. Many people’s misgivings about practicing self-love, kindness, and compassion are simply not true. For

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Five Ways to Keep Your New Relationship Energy Alive

Reading Time: 4 minutesTwo weeks ago I wrote about how every new relationship should be aware of the natural phenomenon that typically occurs a year or two into a relationship. Namely, couples will experience a slow ebbing of passion and excitement as they transition from the lust and romance stages of their relationship to the connection and commitment

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Every New Relationship Should Know That This Is Going to Happen

Reading Time: 7 minutesLast week, I wrote about how important it is to overcome some of our mind’s natural inclinations in order to be happy, to build intimacy in our relationships, and even for our planet to survive. Even if humans have naturally evolved to act in a certain way, that does not necessarily mean we should encourage

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To Be Truly Free, We Must Overcome What Might Seem Natural

Reading Time: 7 minutesOne of my least favorite terms that people overuse is the word “natural.” From yogis who refuse anything that might come from a pharmacist’s office, to vegans, omnivores, and paleos alike arguing over each other about what constitutes a “natural” diet, to nonmonogamous communities advocating for more bonobo-like lifestyles, or Christians espousing homosexuality as a

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