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Reading Time: 3 minutesLife is change, endlessly moving and shifting. If you try to hold on, you’ll get rope burn. Our spiritual task is to find our inner composure amidst the realization that […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesI haven’t published a blog post in several months, because all of my writing has been devoted to my latest manuscript. I’m super excited about the prospect of publishing it […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesThere’s a quote I keep seeing shared around social media from my fellow spiritual seekers. While I’m used to seeing quotes from the Buddha, Eckharte Tolle, or Deepak Chopra, seeing […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesIf I have learned anything in my years on this planet, it is that you never know what is going on behind closed doors. Nowadays, it’s easy to hide behind […]

Reading Time: 3 minutesLast week, I wrote the four best things to say when your partner is upset. The post is a handy guide for what to say when you want to love […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesOk, so your partner is clearly upset with you. Maybe you know why, maybe you don’t. Hopefully you love them and want to make things better. It’s important to note […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesNowadays, you can find yoga just about everywhere in every corner of the globe, including at gyms, studios, corporate offices, festivals, and more. Alongside kundalini, hatha, Iyengar and vinyasa, you […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesDespite the ineffability of the mystical experience, those that have seen the Ultimate Reality often cannot stop talking about it. Indeed, the art that springs forth from those that have […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesWhen you first get into learning about Buddhism, it can be overwhelming. There seems to be a lot to know, including the four noble truths, the eightfold path, the three […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesLast year, I wrote a blog post to help everybody build a more secure attachment style. It went over the five most common strategies to feel more secure in intimate […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesAn interest phenomenon occurs anytime we sit down and meditate to cultivate more positive qualities of mind and heart. Rather than experience those positive qualities themselves, we often feel quite […]

Reading Time: 3 minutesLast week, I covered some of the basics for connected communication, including listening, validation, and communication. What that post didn’t discuss was the underlying assumption that communication is important in […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesIf you ask the average person what is important in relationships, they will probably answer “communication.” You’ve likely heard the famous quip “the three keys to a successful relationship are […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesThere are a number of insightful stories in spiritual communities that involve looking at the same situation from three different perspectives. Sometimes there are three people meeting the same challenge, […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesThere is a story I love that Ram Dass tells about his guru, Neem Karoli Baba, also known as Mahara-ji. If you know anything about the role a guru can […]

Reading Time: < 1 minuteThe meat industry knows if you saw the horrors you would turn vegan. The military knows if you saw the horrors you would be a pacifist already. The loggers know […]

Reading Time: 5 minutes(This post is Part III of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part I and Part II here.) […]

Reading Time: 6 minutes(This post is Part II of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part I […]

Reading Time: 6 minutes(This post is Part I of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part II […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesI believe, quite simply, that love is the reason we are here on earth, and that nothing is more meaningful or powerful than the expression of love. I see every […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesPeople everywhere are learning more and more about their attachment style. What was once a relatively obscure psychological theory, has now exploded into a compendium of surveys, books, trainings, and […]

Reading Time: 8 minutesLast week, I covered five questions for re-igniting your sex life, because I love questions. I think one of the most important things we can do in our lives is […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesIt happens to almost every relationship. What was once new and exciting somehow becomes dull and routine. It is perfectly natural, too, as couples transition from dancing all night and […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesI love words. I love writing words, thinking about words, and researching the etymology of words to understand how they developed. For example, did you ever look at the word […]

Reading Time: 8 minutesI have written a lot in the past few weeks about love. I believe we are here on this planet to love, to discover the love within ourselves as we […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesWhenever I hear the very important lesson that “every human being wants to be happy, and no one wants to be in pain,” I agree… mostly. On the one hand, […]

Reading Time: 3 minutesOne of the best things we can do for ourselves is love ourselves. It is also one of the hardest things for us to do. Fortunately, most of the obstacles […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesMy work in the world consists of one singular focus: love. I believe that love is the reason we are here on this planet, and our life’s purpose is to […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesOne of the greatest misconceptions I have found about the practice of meditation is that it is supposed to be easy. A huge reason for this is the abundance of […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesI don’t usually write to specific genders on this blog, but I wanted to make an exception for this post. This one is for the lonely guys out there, the […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesWhen I begin any deep philosophical discussion with my students, I like to start with the idea that all philosophy and, indeed, most religious and spiritual traditions, are rooted in […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesSomewhere along the path of spiritual awakening, an amazing transformation begins to occur. When we wake up to the true nature of reality, we no longer see a world of […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesIf I were to sum up my work in the world in one word, it would be connection. This realization came after many years of teaching and writing about love […]

Reading Time: 3 minutesWhen I coach couples, one of the most common concerns is the lack of sexual satisfaction and frequency that happens as the relationship goes on. Oftentimes, a fiery and passionate […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesA few weeks ago, I wrote about the traits of a conscious partner. Practicing mindfulness, focusing on giving, and working on oneself are all important elements of an evolving consciousness. […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesHumans have always had an interesting relationship with being right, despite how wrong we are about most things all the time. On a societal level, we disagree about just how […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesOne of the most vague and misunderstood terms in the modern self-help lexicon is the term conscious. One source of this confusion lies behind the multiple meanings behind the word. […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesOne of the worst things to ever happen to the Western view of love was when a group of psychologists came together and decided to refer to close relationships as […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesMany years ago, at the beginning of my spiritual path, when I was exploring big concepts of God, love, and consciousness, I remember coming across the following passage:  Form is […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesI recently had an amazing conversation on the Learn to Love Podcast with Jennie Lee, a fellow yoga teacher and author. We talked about what it means to not just […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesThe first noble truth of Buddhism is simply dukkha–the reality of suffering. Though it is often translated as life is suffering, I prefer to think of it as the plain […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesIf you practice in a meditation community for any period of time, it will not be long before you hear a reference to the monkey mind. The monkey mind is […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesEvery couple experiences conflict. It is an inevitable fact of life that when two people meet, there are going to be challenges. That is because every relationship is a meeting […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesOne of the most profound and simultaneously challenging insights on the spiritual path is that our mind is inherently dual in its thinking and there are nondual ways to be […]

Reading Time: 5 minutesIn the singer Amanda Palmer’s TED talk on The Art of Asking, she talks about working as a living statue and handing out flowers to passersby. She shares how impactful […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesThe experience of love tends to have two sides. The first side says that love is the most beautiful, powerful, and meaningful experience on the planet. This side is bolstered […]

Reading Time: 7 minutesI want you to imagine for a moment that you have never seen rain. Imagine you are an alien from another planet, visiting earth for the first time. You’re sitting […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesTwo weeks ago I wrote about how every new relationship should be aware of the natural phenomenon that typically occurs a year or two into a relationship. Namely, couples will […]

Reading Time: 6 minutesLast week, I wrote about the basic idea that you cannot love someone and try to change them at the same time, because if you are trying to change someone, […]

Reading Time: 4 minutesImagine laying in bed with your lover/partner/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/FWB, and you ask them, “Honey, do you love me?” And even though you already know this person loves you and you have already […]